I'm going to transcribe a nice study that I read somewhere and it seemed interesting to me that people in general would like to read it, but especially those who have the fantasy of CORNUDISMO.
Candaulism, mentioned by Mario Vargas Llosa in El Elogio de la Madrastra, is a social phenomenon that becomes less rare or bizarre every time. Also known as the preference of the happy cuck, has sparked serious scientific studies and essays -not referring to traditional psychologists who are far from being scientific- that have delved into this peculiar behavior, increasingly widespread.
Sharing with the Goddess
Men have, in an enormous majority, a fantasy that many keep hidden even from themselves: it turns them on to imagine their wife having sex with another man. This fantasy is much more common than people think, according to sexologists. When this stops being a fantasy and becomes reality, it's called candaulism.
Candaulism (after King Candaules of Lydia, who shared the nudity of his beautiful wife with his servant Gyges) is the pleasure a man feels when other men admire and desire his wife, whom he loves and venerates as his goddess, and therefore feels an imperious need for others to worship him, including sexual relations, which causes very strong erotic excitement in him, reaching extreme levels when his wife accompanies him in that aspect of their couple's relationship.
What discourages traditional and puritan psychologists is that the more promiscuous and 'slutty' a wife is with other men, the greater admiration her husband experiences for her.
So, the husband becomes, by his own taste and decision, a happy cuck.
Happy Hornies: Open Sexuality Without Deceit
Contrary to what the common folk might believe, a happy cuck isn't a man who has his hair taken, but rather there is great understanding between the husband and wife, both enjoying this experience that's incomprehensible to most majorities.
In the caudalism there are no deceits, because both partners in the couple agree to take this sexual fantasy forward; on the other hand, the role of voyeur as exhibitionist can be exchanged at each one's pleasure and delight.
The caudalism is not the same as swinging behavior or orgies, because in this case both the voyeur and the exhibitionist wife and her occasional husband play roles, provided that he too is exhibitionist; the first one likes to look while the others show themselves while they copulate, and both the wife and husband do it by mutual agreement.
This 'complicity' between spouses creates much stronger and more solid bonds than what could be expected in a relationship that, according to traditionalists of previous centuries, was supposed to end in uncontrollable jealousy and outbursts of violence that should lead to passionate crimes.
But as Shakespeare said: The poison of one man is the gold of another man.
Studies on Happy Horned Ones
According to sexologist and writer Nancy Friday, the caudalism has roots deep in the human soul; since humans, although rational, continue being an animal. In her fundamental work, My Secret Garden, Friday argues that both men and women need to open up to their fantasies, with sharing them and even realizing them together within a couple being the healthiest thing, without feelings of guilt, discarding social expectations that impose an immense burden on our natural development, preventing us from recognizing who we truly are.
In fact, the fantasy of shared wife is not anything new, it dates back a long time. For example, in France, it was quite common for husbands to take their more than willing women to brothels so that they could have sex with others while they watched.
The War of Semen
In his book 'War of Semen', Robin Baker proposes the hypothesis that the excitement and stimulation caused by ejaculation, emerges from the biology of sexuality as well as the effects of sexual excitement on the brain.
In accordance with this theory, when a man believes his woman could have behaved sexually with another man, the man of the couple is driven by biological impulses to copulate with the woman, in an effort to compete with the sperm of the other man. The effects of this war of sperms are scientifically documented.
Moreover, after sex is initiated, the male of the couple pushes his penis harder, deeper, and for a longer time into the woman, striving to remove the sperm from the other male, and is biologically driven to have sex on multiple occasions. When perhaps unable to have sex more than once in normal circumstances, the male of the couple tends to have repeated sexual efforts.
While waiting, the wife enjoys greater stimulation, first from another man's sexual advances and secondly from her 'cuck' husband. Besides this, the wife enjoys sudden sharp neurochemical peaks, triggered by feeling physically desired and stimulated by another lover. When a wife is thus excited by the neurochemicals of a different sexual relationship, she brings home the excitement and enthusiasm to project onto her husband.
And the Jealousy?The above-mentioned seems to contradict the hypothetical bases of evolutionary psychology about jealousy, which are founded on the idea that man specifically reacts with jealousy towards sexual infidelity by his companions. According to those suppositions, far from feeling sexually incited, the wife's infidelity triggers extreme reactions of anger in the betrayed husband, to the point where he may commit crimes of passion due to his wife's infidelity. But the question arises immediately: Is that anger, that violent impulse that can lead to crime, triggered by the fact that the wife has been found appealing and attractive by another man, or are they really the betrayal, the deception that led to infidelity and the feeling of being mocked, the great motor of such strong reactions in the cheated husband? Historically and universally widespread polygamy in all cultures seems to challenge these interpretations, suggesting that there exist different responses to jealousy, and even adaptive ones, arriving at a Hobbesian negotiation considering the possibility that in certain men, accepting their wife's promiscuous behavior is seen as a necessary evil, as a way of ensuring her permanence in the relationship, which would break if she were not satisfied sexually with her husband, seeking satisfaction in other men and breaking the marriage for this reason. Other researchers advance other hypotheses about the submerged reasons why a man may desire to share his wife: Exaggerated admiration for his wife accompanied by a compulsion to let others 'try' him out on how magnificent she is; the experience of feeling superior to other evils, which after being 'used' in the satisfaction of both spouses' fantasies are relegated as if they were simple sexual objects, something As if they were meat dildos; as compensation or retribution for infidelities committed by the male, whether these are known to the wife or not, etc.
The Absent Egoism
One thing that does deserve noting in pure candaulism is that it can be distinguished from the exchange of wives, which is so common in the swinger community: The fact that in a great majority of cases the man does not claim the right to enjoy another woman, but rather seems satisfied with his own wife's pleasure. It means that there is a notable absence of egoism on the part of the man, who enjoys when his wife enjoys.
And surprisingly, the wife reciprocates this behavior by trying to provide her husband with the greatest possible visual pleasure, even interrupting the performance of the invited lover in turn to ask her husband: Do you see well? Does it seem better to you?
In this way, in a great many cases of happy cuckolds, the couple ends up in what is known as a 'win-win-win situation': A situation where everyone wins: The wife, the husband, and the happy invited guest.
Candaulism, mentioned by Mario Vargas Llosa in El Elogio de la Madrastra, is a social phenomenon that becomes less rare or bizarre every time. Also known as the preference of the happy cuck, has sparked serious scientific studies and essays -not referring to traditional psychologists who are far from being scientific- that have delved into this peculiar behavior, increasingly widespread.
Sharing with the Goddess
Men have, in an enormous majority, a fantasy that many keep hidden even from themselves: it turns them on to imagine their wife having sex with another man. This fantasy is much more common than people think, according to sexologists. When this stops being a fantasy and becomes reality, it's called candaulism.
Candaulism (after King Candaules of Lydia, who shared the nudity of his beautiful wife with his servant Gyges) is the pleasure a man feels when other men admire and desire his wife, whom he loves and venerates as his goddess, and therefore feels an imperious need for others to worship him, including sexual relations, which causes very strong erotic excitement in him, reaching extreme levels when his wife accompanies him in that aspect of their couple's relationship.
What discourages traditional and puritan psychologists is that the more promiscuous and 'slutty' a wife is with other men, the greater admiration her husband experiences for her.
So, the husband becomes, by his own taste and decision, a happy cuck.
Happy Hornies: Open Sexuality Without Deceit
Contrary to what the common folk might believe, a happy cuck isn't a man who has his hair taken, but rather there is great understanding between the husband and wife, both enjoying this experience that's incomprehensible to most majorities.
In the caudalism there are no deceits, because both partners in the couple agree to take this sexual fantasy forward; on the other hand, the role of voyeur as exhibitionist can be exchanged at each one's pleasure and delight.
The caudalism is not the same as swinging behavior or orgies, because in this case both the voyeur and the exhibitionist wife and her occasional husband play roles, provided that he too is exhibitionist; the first one likes to look while the others show themselves while they copulate, and both the wife and husband do it by mutual agreement.
This 'complicity' between spouses creates much stronger and more solid bonds than what could be expected in a relationship that, according to traditionalists of previous centuries, was supposed to end in uncontrollable jealousy and outbursts of violence that should lead to passionate crimes.
But as Shakespeare said: The poison of one man is the gold of another man.
Studies on Happy Horned Ones
According to sexologist and writer Nancy Friday, the caudalism has roots deep in the human soul; since humans, although rational, continue being an animal. In her fundamental work, My Secret Garden, Friday argues that both men and women need to open up to their fantasies, with sharing them and even realizing them together within a couple being the healthiest thing, without feelings of guilt, discarding social expectations that impose an immense burden on our natural development, preventing us from recognizing who we truly are.
In fact, the fantasy of shared wife is not anything new, it dates back a long time. For example, in France, it was quite common for husbands to take their more than willing women to brothels so that they could have sex with others while they watched.
The War of Semen
In his book 'War of Semen', Robin Baker proposes the hypothesis that the excitement and stimulation caused by ejaculation, emerges from the biology of sexuality as well as the effects of sexual excitement on the brain.
In accordance with this theory, when a man believes his woman could have behaved sexually with another man, the man of the couple is driven by biological impulses to copulate with the woman, in an effort to compete with the sperm of the other man. The effects of this war of sperms are scientifically documented.
Moreover, after sex is initiated, the male of the couple pushes his penis harder, deeper, and for a longer time into the woman, striving to remove the sperm from the other male, and is biologically driven to have sex on multiple occasions. When perhaps unable to have sex more than once in normal circumstances, the male of the couple tends to have repeated sexual efforts.
While waiting, the wife enjoys greater stimulation, first from another man's sexual advances and secondly from her 'cuck' husband. Besides this, the wife enjoys sudden sharp neurochemical peaks, triggered by feeling physically desired and stimulated by another lover. When a wife is thus excited by the neurochemicals of a different sexual relationship, she brings home the excitement and enthusiasm to project onto her husband.
And the Jealousy?The above-mentioned seems to contradict the hypothetical bases of evolutionary psychology about jealousy, which are founded on the idea that man specifically reacts with jealousy towards sexual infidelity by his companions. According to those suppositions, far from feeling sexually incited, the wife's infidelity triggers extreme reactions of anger in the betrayed husband, to the point where he may commit crimes of passion due to his wife's infidelity. But the question arises immediately: Is that anger, that violent impulse that can lead to crime, triggered by the fact that the wife has been found appealing and attractive by another man, or are they really the betrayal, the deception that led to infidelity and the feeling of being mocked, the great motor of such strong reactions in the cheated husband? Historically and universally widespread polygamy in all cultures seems to challenge these interpretations, suggesting that there exist different responses to jealousy, and even adaptive ones, arriving at a Hobbesian negotiation considering the possibility that in certain men, accepting their wife's promiscuous behavior is seen as a necessary evil, as a way of ensuring her permanence in the relationship, which would break if she were not satisfied sexually with her husband, seeking satisfaction in other men and breaking the marriage for this reason. Other researchers advance other hypotheses about the submerged reasons why a man may desire to share his wife: Exaggerated admiration for his wife accompanied by a compulsion to let others 'try' him out on how magnificent she is; the experience of feeling superior to other evils, which after being 'used' in the satisfaction of both spouses' fantasies are relegated as if they were simple sexual objects, something As if they were meat dildos; as compensation or retribution for infidelities committed by the male, whether these are known to the wife or not, etc.
The Absent Egoism
One thing that does deserve noting in pure candaulism is that it can be distinguished from the exchange of wives, which is so common in the swinger community: The fact that in a great majority of cases the man does not claim the right to enjoy another woman, but rather seems satisfied with his own wife's pleasure. It means that there is a notable absence of egoism on the part of the man, who enjoys when his wife enjoys.
And surprisingly, the wife reciprocates this behavior by trying to provide her husband with the greatest possible visual pleasure, even interrupting the performance of the invited lover in turn to ask her husband: Do you see well? Does it seem better to you?
In this way, in a great many cases of happy cuckolds, the couple ends up in what is known as a 'win-win-win situation': A situation where everyone wins: The wife, the husband, and the happy invited guest.
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