Social norms establish two types of gender based on the nature of our bodies: males and females. However, nature is not the only ruler of sexuality. Human experience is so vast and complex that it surpasses biological determinants. Therefore, there are sexes and sexualities:
Biological sex: man, woman, intersex (when both sexes' characteristics coexist).
Psychological or gender identity: masculine, feminine, transgender (travestis, transsexuals).
Sexual desire: heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual.
A travesti is not a biological male who dresses as a woman. It's a transwoman who feels like a woman but doesn't deny her opposite-sex origin. In the first case, she maintains her genitals and doesn't feel incomplete; in the second case, she needs surgery to adjust her physical body to her subjective experience of feeling like a woman.
Clarifying these differences between sex, gender, and desire opens up possibilities so that a transwoman can have desires for being with a man or a woman; or a heterosexual man might see himself desiring a biological and psychological woman or a transwoman (travesti or transsexual).
Men want her complete
It's no novelty: there are men who seek out travestis for sex and others who fall in love and build a life together. Despite advances in sexuality and acceptance of the different, the tendency to categorize exists.
It's believed that a man seeking out travestis or transsexuals is a closeted homosexual. Not so. He's a biological male (gender identity: feels masculine), he's heterosexual (he desires being with a woman... but transsexual). These heterosexual men are attracted to the female body, fascinated by its curves, sensuality, and even freedom for erotic play.
Some are So exquisite that they reject any virile gesture or the slightly grave tone of voice. It may seem paradoxical, but on one hand, they reject signs of masculinity in figure and behavior, but the presence of male genitalia attracts them.
There are those who desire transvestites and choose the complete body offered; others enjoy transgender women who have undergone surgery or are in the process of readjusting their bodies.
In many relationships with transvestites, the man occupies a passive role, or there is versatility and the roles are exchanged, a practice that a prostitute or another woman could not do for logical reasons. (Note: anal sex is not synonymous with homosexuality; homosexual eroticism may or may not include this practice).
If there is an offer of prostitution from transgender women, it is because there is demand. Men who seek relationships with transvestites do not do so only for mere play or to go out with friends on an exotic adventure. They like it and enjoy it, but only a few dare to say so.
Some men feel they get more excited than with their female partners. When they achieve high pleasure with transgender girls, they want to repeat the experience. In some cases, the existential dilemma arises: should I be with my girlfriend woman or my transgender girl?
Men in love with transgender women face the great challenge of whitening a relationship that can generate misunderstanding, ridicule, and rejection. Only a few brave ones dare.
Cheating on a transgender girl
There are heterosexual men, in relationships or married, who hide their tastes for transgender women. Very few dare to confess them to their current partners because of where their desire is heading.
More open-minded women accept that there may be interest but would never allow their man to go out one night to satisfy his parallel inclinations. They admit the need of their partner and even permit themselves to fantasize about having a transgender girl in bed, or play with some dildo (consolator) and have her tie it to her belt like an artificial penis. That's as far as the permission goes.
Men who desire a transgender girl, and are in a couple, find themselves in an anguishing dilemma, much more so than if the other option were a woman. Those who cannot confess their attraction prefer to hide it. However, their behavior may attract attention: hidden calls, frequent nighttime outings, excessive use of chat or entry into transsexual prostitute pages. In bed, they may show a decrease in desire or an increase in the same when fantasies involving travestis are externalized.
A heterosexual man who desires a transgender woman lives under social norms (under the protection of religious beliefs), which do not allow him to express authentically what he feels.
He has to comply with the rules imposed for a biological man, who psychologically feels like a man, but desires equally or more a transgenic woman than a biologically and psychologically configured woman. Homosexual men and women have achieved greater acceptance and live their lives with more freedom; it's now time for transgender women and men. And for those who fall in love with them.
Biological sex: man, woman, intersex (when both sexes' characteristics coexist).
Psychological or gender identity: masculine, feminine, transgender (travestis, transsexuals).
Sexual desire: heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual.
A travesti is not a biological male who dresses as a woman. It's a transwoman who feels like a woman but doesn't deny her opposite-sex origin. In the first case, she maintains her genitals and doesn't feel incomplete; in the second case, she needs surgery to adjust her physical body to her subjective experience of feeling like a woman.
Clarifying these differences between sex, gender, and desire opens up possibilities so that a transwoman can have desires for being with a man or a woman; or a heterosexual man might see himself desiring a biological and psychological woman or a transwoman (travesti or transsexual).
Men want her complete
It's no novelty: there are men who seek out travestis for sex and others who fall in love and build a life together. Despite advances in sexuality and acceptance of the different, the tendency to categorize exists.
It's believed that a man seeking out travestis or transsexuals is a closeted homosexual. Not so. He's a biological male (gender identity: feels masculine), he's heterosexual (he desires being with a woman... but transsexual). These heterosexual men are attracted to the female body, fascinated by its curves, sensuality, and even freedom for erotic play.
Some are So exquisite that they reject any virile gesture or the slightly grave tone of voice. It may seem paradoxical, but on one hand, they reject signs of masculinity in figure and behavior, but the presence of male genitalia attracts them.
There are those who desire transvestites and choose the complete body offered; others enjoy transgender women who have undergone surgery or are in the process of readjusting their bodies.
In many relationships with transvestites, the man occupies a passive role, or there is versatility and the roles are exchanged, a practice that a prostitute or another woman could not do for logical reasons. (Note: anal sex is not synonymous with homosexuality; homosexual eroticism may or may not include this practice).
If there is an offer of prostitution from transgender women, it is because there is demand. Men who seek relationships with transvestites do not do so only for mere play or to go out with friends on an exotic adventure. They like it and enjoy it, but only a few dare to say so.
Some men feel they get more excited than with their female partners. When they achieve high pleasure with transgender girls, they want to repeat the experience. In some cases, the existential dilemma arises: should I be with my girlfriend woman or my transgender girl?
Men in love with transgender women face the great challenge of whitening a relationship that can generate misunderstanding, ridicule, and rejection. Only a few brave ones dare.
Cheating on a transgender girl
There are heterosexual men, in relationships or married, who hide their tastes for transgender women. Very few dare to confess them to their current partners because of where their desire is heading.
More open-minded women accept that there may be interest but would never allow their man to go out one night to satisfy his parallel inclinations. They admit the need of their partner and even permit themselves to fantasize about having a transgender girl in bed, or play with some dildo (consolator) and have her tie it to her belt like an artificial penis. That's as far as the permission goes.
Men who desire a transgender girl, and are in a couple, find themselves in an anguishing dilemma, much more so than if the other option were a woman. Those who cannot confess their attraction prefer to hide it. However, their behavior may attract attention: hidden calls, frequent nighttime outings, excessive use of chat or entry into transsexual prostitute pages. In bed, they may show a decrease in desire or an increase in the same when fantasies involving travestis are externalized.
A heterosexual man who desires a transgender woman lives under social norms (under the protection of religious beliefs), which do not allow him to express authentically what he feels.
He has to comply with the rules imposed for a biological man, who psychologically feels like a man, but desires equally or more a transgenic woman than a biologically and psychologically configured woman. Homosexual men and women have achieved greater acceptance and live their lives with more freedom; it's now time for transgender women and men. And for those who fall in love with them.
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