Through all the possibilities that today offers the Web, many people establish very intimate connections and relationships. Thus, they start circulating secrets, fantasies, idealizations, enthusiasm, denial, rationalization, and frustrations that often result in devastating consequences for other real relationships maintained at the same time.
Does virtual infidelity exist? It's a question I'm often asked by patients or couples who consult me.
But isn't it similar to what happens in real life? Don't we fall in love with a happy ending while other times we totally disillusion ourselves? Isn't that initial infatuation equivalent to virtual knowledge, where everything shines, everything is being made, and everything is wonderful? And isn't that other one the same one who appears before us after the infatuation phase?
A world of fantasies
In all new relationships, whether online or not, people present their best selves, but it doesn't mean they're like that all the time in daily life. We often think of love as those vertiginous and intense feelings that occur when we're dazzled. But if it's a fantastic experience, much of the intensity of the emotions is simply inherent to the same novelty.
In fact, once a dream love must give way to all the responsibilities of daily life in a long-term relationship, other feelings emerge or everything ends.
I see many couples in my practice where one or both partners spend a lot of time online for interactions that allow them to escape reality. A patient told me: That virtual world, that world of fantasies that the Internet provides, allows me to get out of the monotonous and boring daily routine.
Once you find someone interesting on the Web, both show off their best sides. aspects and they start sharing intimacies, hopes, fears, and fantasies. This brings them even closer and makes the need for real interaction more pressing.
Play detective games
When a couple wants to know 'what my husband/my wife is doing so many hours in a row on the Internet', it starts to suspect every day and feels threatened. Then it starts reviewing the computer of the supposed unfaithful spouse like a true detective, arriving many times to feel devastated and betrayed.
That other virtual one has stopped being virtual (even if there have been no real encounters), although it is also true that many find it irresistible to meet their virtual friend in person. They feel they've known their 'soulmates' and seem to have been made for each other, so it would be worth risking everything for them.
From idealism to reality
Many times disappointment sets in: the real person is very different from the virtual one. Therefore, a virtual romance start-up when there's a real couple could serve as a warning sign to know that modifications are needed in your own couple.
This should be the focus of attention: you need to know that many times, the loss experienced when a virtual relationship ends is actually the loss of a fantasy, and not something real, unlike a couple of years.
Does virtual infidelity exist? It's a question I'm often asked by patients or couples who consult me.
But isn't it similar to what happens in real life? Don't we fall in love with a happy ending while other times we totally disillusion ourselves? Isn't that initial infatuation equivalent to virtual knowledge, where everything shines, everything is being made, and everything is wonderful? And isn't that other one the same one who appears before us after the infatuation phase?
A world of fantasies
In all new relationships, whether online or not, people present their best selves, but it doesn't mean they're like that all the time in daily life. We often think of love as those vertiginous and intense feelings that occur when we're dazzled. But if it's a fantastic experience, much of the intensity of the emotions is simply inherent to the same novelty.
In fact, once a dream love must give way to all the responsibilities of daily life in a long-term relationship, other feelings emerge or everything ends.
I see many couples in my practice where one or both partners spend a lot of time online for interactions that allow them to escape reality. A patient told me: That virtual world, that world of fantasies that the Internet provides, allows me to get out of the monotonous and boring daily routine.
Once you find someone interesting on the Web, both show off their best sides. aspects and they start sharing intimacies, hopes, fears, and fantasies. This brings them even closer and makes the need for real interaction more pressing.
Play detective games
When a couple wants to know 'what my husband/my wife is doing so many hours in a row on the Internet', it starts to suspect every day and feels threatened. Then it starts reviewing the computer of the supposed unfaithful spouse like a true detective, arriving many times to feel devastated and betrayed.
That other virtual one has stopped being virtual (even if there have been no real encounters), although it is also true that many find it irresistible to meet their virtual friend in person. They feel they've known their 'soulmates' and seem to have been made for each other, so it would be worth risking everything for them.
From idealism to reality
Many times disappointment sets in: the real person is very different from the virtual one. Therefore, a virtual romance start-up when there's a real couple could serve as a warning sign to know that modifications are needed in your own couple.
This should be the focus of attention: you need to know that many times, the loss experienced when a virtual relationship ends is actually the loss of a fantasy, and not something real, unlike a couple of years.
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