Thoughts of a swinging mind

Hello to all. Well, for those who follow me already know that I have participated in several sexual parties with more than 2 people several times. For the first time in my life, I fell deeply in love with someone who appears as Eve in stories, obviously not her real name and she's here next to me, brewing mate and messing around with her phone while I start writing about what goes through our minds as swingers, partygoers, and what sets us apart from conservatives, monogamists, and repressed people. This all came out of a chat in a pretty big WhatsApp group where I found people of all kinds. Except one: People who only desire their partner. Absolutely everyone desires to get it on with someone who is not our partner. If you're reading this, you already know, but don't imagine that your partner doesn't think about someone else either - your sister might be thinking about someone other than your brother-in-law, your old man checking out the waitress's ass at the restaurant wanting to screw her while your wife looks up the menu for dinner? The hard part is admitting it to your partner, saying I don't see why we can't get it on with our colleague and her boyfriend too? Honestly, I'm turned on by her, what about you? In this relationship, both of us learned that there's no need for taboos, lies, or secrets. It's the healthiest thing. We learned to love each other by separating love from desire, assuming that the other person can want to screw someone else too, but that doesn't mean they don't love me, or that we have a bad time together, or that they don't want to screw us either. We can get it on with another couple one night, spend hours fucking with other people and our love will still be intact the next day or even stronger. Of course, everything has to be agreed upon, you don't do things because one person wants them if the other doesn't agree, you don't do things behind each other's backs. Absolutely nothing without the other person's approval. First comes the couple, first comes us. being a swinger doesn't mean we have to want to fuck everyone all the time, when one is single they don't want to get involved with all people in the world, well think now that there are two people who have to want to get involved with other two that come together (or one in case of trio) and besides those two also have to want to fuck with us. It's not like we don't care about anything, actually I'm super reserved in my personal life, it's not something everyone knows, actually not all my friends know. After chatting a lot we concluded that there are several who don't think about their partner out of fear they'll say no. Many who want to fuck outside the relationship but the other person doesn't and thus end up being unfaithful. We two include ourselves in this list. In fact, the first time Eve got it on with me she was still dating and didn't get caught by her ex. The rules have to be absolutely clear, what's allowed, what's not, what needs the other person's OK. I'm going to give an example of a friend couple, man-woman, both bisexual, how clear their limits are because they sent them to me via Whatsapp, I copied them, pasted them and edited them a bit so you can understand. With this couple we won't get upset because Eve doesn't care about the guy at all, I don't care either way, even though the cutie turns us both on, it's a total bomb. Both can be with someone of the same sex without asking permission, they only tell each other afterwards. They can hook up with whoever and touch everything that is. For what comes next you need to have the OK and participate yes or no, if there's someone of the opposite gender you have to bring your partner. Nothing about making them get it on with her, nor him getting it on with another cutie. Absolutely everything outside the relationship with a condom. If anyone recognizes that the couple isn't in a great moment, absolutely nothing is done with another person. Each couple is an internal world and the best they can do is talk about everything, show themselves as they are with their most turbulent things in sight. None of those reading this is a saint, the person you have next to you isn't either. It's not their past or present. Yes, you may have only gone for pleasure, your partner also and that's nothing wrong with that. Human desire moves us, telling it to the person next to you is nothing wrong, encouraging yourself to live your fantasy won't make you lose fantasies, it will generate a new one. Also inside this world there's everything, today quite pale due to the pandemic. There are different environments and not all are for everyone. For example, we would be intrigued by going to a swinger club, but not getting involved in those crowded orgies where you can't count the number of people with whom you had close contact, that gives us both disgust, we understand people who do it, but wouldn't do it, at least not for now. I think the most suitable environments for us are with known people, who walk the same way and have it clear between them, but obviously there aren't many and less that interest us (the story of a friend couple will appear, I'll tell the first time, but already several) and I think the ideal is electronic parties. On one hand because we like it and on the other because people who go consume things that make them lose their filter and self-censorship, this makes them prone to satisfying certain desires they would otherwise repress. I have many lived examples by me and by people I know are 100% true, but I'll tell some: I was in a relationship with a cutie to whom I said I wanted to do a trio with her or get together with another couple, the first thing she said was a flat-out NO, immediately after which she would be with another guy, who wouldn't stand seeing me with another cutie. Some months after a party there was a very thin but very arrogant guy who wouldn't stop looking at her, to be honest I was getting turned on by the idea of a threesome and without hesitation I proposed going to talk to him directly but he said it would be better not to because if I fulfilled that fantasy there wouldn't be anything left for him to do afterwards.

Some time later I found out from a slip-up of hers that she was with another guy, who was really pissing me off, she told me it was just sex, no feelings. I proposed doing a threesome with him and he started freaking out. I ended up screwing another cutie and she with another thin guy.

Both of us wanted to fuck outside the couple and we did. It didn't bother me that they were doing it, what bothered me was that they were cheating on me, doing it behind my back. She proposed an absolutely monogamous relationship but didn't really want it and wasn't even fulfilling it. Obviously we ended up breaking up with many fights about this topic.

Another cutie I made the same proposal to gave me a similar response. We didn't last long, once separated she told me that the idea of doing a threesome with another cutie was really hot for her, she had identified her and everything. We got it on, we passed 10 and after some time I asked her why she hadn't done it while we were together but later did. She said that in reality she wanted to but while in a relationship it didn't feel right, so I repressed my desire.

A friend from school has been with the same thin guy since childhood, a friend of my cousin's, 6 years older, the only one who got laid in his life and must have boned 5 times. The guy did everything during those active sexual years, told her about it without problems and although she said that everything can be talked about, she doesn't dare to tell him that she wants to experiment with another thin guy, with another cutie. She represses her desire so as not to think that she's a slut, a hot one who can get turned on by someone other than him.

She puts the brakes on herself out of fear that it might lead her partner to think she's a slut.

There is a gay couple that are very good friends of mine from before they they would know, for something in life both have me as a confidant without the other knowing, obviously I'm not going to give info about one to the other and they don't know that the other tells me everything. The 2 sometimes get together with someone outside the couple, both want to hook up with their partner and another. I tell them to propose it to their partner, not to hide it, but neither of them listens, both are missing out on living a more full or at least honest relationship. Eve here collaborates with one who I would have killed if he were in my place: the ex-boyfriend who almost caught us proposed a game, each writing down their deepest sexual fantasy on a paper and passing it simultaneously, until then everything was 10 points. He wanted a threesome with another cutie, she accepted but obviously they would choose between the two. She wanted a threesome with another guy (who fulfilled me). He got upset saying it wasn't the same because that's a man's fantasy, not a woman's. Beyond all the machismo crap he put in there, what the type couldn't accept was that she wants another cock, wanting him to want another pussy. A few days later they broke up, he told her clearly he couldn't stand it that she wanted another man. As conclusion of this, many people don't get together with someone outside their couple not because they don't want to but because they don't want the other to or out of fear the other will think about it. Many end up fucking in secret from their partner putting the whole relationship at risk, poisoning and possibly leading it to its end. It's not something for everyone, it's not something that should be done to try to save a couple (spoiler, having a dude is a worse idea), honestly the first time I saw another guy fucking my girlfriend was kind of shocking, in the same instant I realized with whom I was in a 69 was her boyfriend and we four were having a blast. Kisses!