Tratando de comprender la “Infidelidad”

Why does it exist? Why does it happen? Why does it happen to some and not others? And why don't they care?

Monotony, a scarce and unattractive sexual passion, discovering new sensations or feeling desired with other people are some of the reasons experts claim as the cause of most infidelities that occur, especially if we learned to maintain sexual relationships only with the person we chose as our partner, FOR LIFE......? Where is it written that this is so? Is it good? Is it bad? What is good and what is bad?

Someone once explained the theory of the two worlds to me.

It's about having a world where one includes our families, the person we chose to share our lives with, commitments, social life, etc.-

And another parallel world that is only ours, with a single valid interlocutor where we share other things, our own things, just our own ideas, secrets, desires, perversions, tastes, etc., etc. In this world, we are an independent being, no commitments, no family, no friends, no confidants, no beliefs, no positions, no religion, nothing, only us and our deepest desires. BUT THAT IS: Both worlds NEVER MIX, NEVER!

Be careful, having two worlds is not for anyone, you must have several concepts clear and know how to manage them, you can understand but managing them sometimes can be a weight that sinks you.

There should be no confusion about whether one of the two wants or pretends to become the other's partner.

Understand clearly that one thing is love and the other is PLEASURE.

If you're committed, you must have it clear what risks you can take with whom, especially if both have families, neither your existence nor that of your valid interlocutor should hinder or twist what has already been built.

The things shared with that valid interlocutor are unique, the things spoken to him do not speak to anyone, he likes listening to you, trying to understand what's going on with you, having your opinion in mind or vice versa and that speaks well of both, two adult people who have something UNIQUE, where it's clear from the start that there are codes and a lot of trust. You chose them as valid interlocutor, not sentimentally nor to project, but because you enjoy it, for pleasure and fun, and the codes are to know that there are limits, obviously your desires will never be able to cause harm to others. Infidelity is not just about giving yourself a treat, that's all. Now well... many of what I mentioned before don't know this and maybe now it will serve them and they'll see it from another perspective like it happened to me, eye, it's just my contribution. There are many unfaithful men, but women? YES, not many, but there are, they have things so clear (better than men) that it doesn't even show up. But why aren't there as many? Because many think they know it all and try... and then can't sustain it (or get hooked or feel guilty) and run away horrified. There are many who talk but don't do (HYSTERICAL), others who are horrified when hearing the topic and their mind tells them everything opposite and they're cowards even to think about it, and others who think they can and imagine each type is the next prince charming, cute ones carrying a disease I call EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS. Those who tell you this is just sex and at three weeks of sex ask for directions, those who are waiting to hook up with someone to give their life meaning. Is it that way? What do you think? Tell me your experiences?