All You Need to Know About Swingers

As Woody saidSex without love is an empty experience, but as an empty experience, it's one of the best Woody Allen.According to The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers (2003), written by Terry Gould, what is today known as 'swinging' began in 1920 among pilots and their wives from the air force during World War II. Between rumor and anonymity, a movement survives and grows that sparks controversy and disapproving looks in some. For others, it's the formula for extending pleasure beyond conventional sexual acts. From 'wife swapping', to swinging practiceThe term 'swinger' which in English means 'to swing' or 'to sway', refers to the activity that includes a wide variety of actions within the sexual act. These are originally performed between heterosexual couples, in a location chosen by mutual agreement.What is known today as an 'swinging' activity includes: observing others while they sexually relate to each other, having sex with your partner while being observed; kissing, caressing or performing oral sex on a third or fourth person and having penetrative sexual intercourse with an additional partner or person.

Wrong BeliefsAlthough these activities can be understood as the practice of a simple orgy, what sets them apart is the premise of doing it in a couple, married or committed, and involving an additional partner or a single individual.The difference between an open relationship and a 'swinger' marriage lies in something fundamental: in the first one, there is permission to express interest or maintain an erotic or affectionate relationship with another person without needing to notify the formal partner. In the second one, it's about exchanging sexual partners with others.The most conservative ones express fear before this type of relationship, especially due to the risk it would imply for the stability of the couple, sustaining intimacy with other people. Swingers promote the freedom to exercise their sexuality, under mutual agreement, without putting their feelings at stake.

International normsUnder the premises of discretion, hygiene, and respect, the global 'swinger' activity sustains some rules that must be respected by anyone who initiates and practices it:

Not is not: This means that sexual rejection should be respected without requiring justification.

In European Union 'swingers' circles, approaches are made through light caresses on non-erogenous zones. If these are allowed, consent to continue is understood.

In the United States, it's considered offensive not to solicit authorization before touching.

In Latin America, each 'swinger' group establishes its own rules. Some may include only light caresses or the sexual act in the presence of other couples, without intervention.

To prevent sexually transmitted diseases, condom use is mandatory, which should be exclusive for each contact.

Some 'swinger' clubs oppose participation by single people, fearing friction in established couples. However, some may be admitted at a certain price.

Clear preferences: To prevent discrimination acts, each couple establishes its preferences in advance (for example: with or without coitus on the first date, chubby yes, short no, nudity, sexy clothes, fantasies, etc.)

Recommendations and coordinatesIf the 'swinger' scene calls your attention, be very careful about how you get involved. Since there are some proposals that call themselves 'swinger', but only fulfill international parameters and take place in places like 'cyber-cafes' and transmit the act via streaming.

Before taking the decision to participate in a 'swinger' activity, you should feel sufficiently secure about yourself and your partner. This must be understood as an attempt to expand sexual pleasure and not as a reason to add drama to the relationship.

A fact: there are couples of friends who, without proclaiming themselves part of the 'swinger' movement, practice these activities privately in different city locations.

I'm leaving a few images of swinger encounters for you: