¿Existe el amor para nosotros los gay? (info)

Verbalizing what many gay people think and feel, they say: 'There are moments when I feel alone. Sometimes I think they're looking for me only to have sex. It's sad but real. Is there love for us gays?'

The ability to love and be loved is an innate characteristic of the human being that is not related to sexual orientation or gender identity. Just as there is love among heterosexuals, there is also love among homosexuals.

It is true that gay people can feel very alone. But loneliness is not a condition that affects a particular population like the gay community. All human beings can experience loneliness at some stage in their lives. Loneliness is not related to sexual orientation, but rather an individual feeling.A gay person can feel very lonely when isolated, living inside the closet, and thinks they are the only homosexual in their surroundings. Almost all gay men have gone through this situation, especially when we feel ashamed of our sexual orientation.

Not having gay friends to share with or heterosexuals who accept and support us makes us believe we're different, with a negative connotation.

Fear of rejection also prevents us from openly sharing with our families, so we distance ourselves. And if we decide to come out of the closet with our loved ones and they reject us, that would even more exacerbate the feeling of loneliness.

Covering loneliness with sex.It's natural for people to dislike feeling alone, although there are situations where solitude is beneficial for an individual. To avoid the discomfort that loneliness sometimes generates, gay people often resort to sex as an escape, a seemingly effective way to fill that void.

This leads us to experiment with sex with multiple partners, sometimes in public places or casual one-night stands. Sexual desire is often reciprocated because it's about sexual relations between men, and men, regardless of their sexual orientation, are naturally more sexual and less emotional than women.

For this reason, it's usually easier for a gay man to get a partner for casual sex.

As with all instincts, abusing sex can have consequences, especially if protection measures aren't practiced to prevent sexually transmitted diseases. On the other hand, there's the risk that someone with hereditary predisposition may develop an addiction to sex, influenced by environmental factors.

Tired, we're looking for loveDespite enjoying sex a lot, sexual relationships on their own eventually stop serving us to cover loneliness because, in the long run, we get tired of physical contact with strangers and feel the need to love and trust someone and, especially, feel loved. It is at this moment that we miss getting a stable partner who attracts us not only sexually but also emotionally, affectively, and intellectually. In other words, we want a boyfriend. Generally, it's a complicated process, although there are people who get into a relationship with more ease than others, regardless of their appearance. Love arises when you establish a special connection with another man where there are common objectives, communication, understanding, tolerance, and values that allow building the foundations for a solid relationship. Many gay people manage to establish these lasting and committed relationships. Today, it's no surprise to meet a couple who have been together for more than 30 years. Love exists for gay people, get it.